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Kellie's Story  Hi there, After reading the stories on this site, I feel that I would like to share mine and hope to lighten the load for some people. Unfortunately it seems that this happens to so many people; I feel that there is still something to look forward to even though we are going through my 2nd miscarriage at the moment.... My husband and I got married early in 2006. After being together since 2001 we weren't going to wait long before "trying" to have a family. The ironic thing is that that day I found out I was pregnant, I had already had an appointment booked to have my IUD removed a week later. So anyway, after a home pregnancy test because we just had a "feeling" we trotted off to the GY who confirmed that I was pregnant. He removed the IUD and told us to go home and just see what happens. Well it happened over the next 5 months. Although I had bleeding throughout (and lost one of two at 12 weeks) we carried our baby boy to 20 weeks. The GY was not convinced we would go full term, however at 18 weeks after a scan he thought that all was looking well and the bleeding/spotting had also stopped so it was "all systems go". I had two weeks of the 'all clear" where I had the GY's support behind me and all the signs were looking like a viable pregnancy. I woke up one night and I felt my water break (Mind you this was the first pregnancy for me but I just knew..) We went to the GY the next day for the all important 20 week scan. On the scan he could not see enough fluid around the baby. Hoping that the baby might be having a bad day, we were referred to a specialist who sadly confirmed that the membrane had broken, most likely due to a weakness caused by the removal of the IUD. I elected for a ceaserian. With the last 5 months of "are we/aren't we", "is it/isn't it", I was so not ready to go through labour, especially knowing that there was no chance of survival for the baby. Bearing in mind I had only been given the all clear from the doc at 18 weeks, and had just 2 weeks of really bonding with my baby and thinking that we were all going to go to full term; mentally and physically I just couldn't do it. So we had the ceaserian and I think that the saving grace for me was that in between the time of the last scan and the op, the baby had already passed away. I had never had a big op before and it was very difficult to be so incapacitated for 4 weeks before I could move about and also to have nothing to show for it! I was amazed that almost 4 weeks to the day my period arrived and it continued to do so for 3 months before I fell pregnant again. We were so ecstatic to know that it could happen again so soon(especially as the 1st time wasn't planned) and were really looking forward to it. The best thing that has come out of this is that Jacques and I know that we can fall pregnant, but unfortunately luck hasn't been on our side so far. What I do have to be grateful for is a very loving husband, a successful business and family and friends who are there for us. The more people I talk to about being pregnant, the more losses and heartache I hear, but everyone I have spoken to has gone from great loss to greater gain. We can't wait..... Support and love to you all Kellie 07/23/07 |